We did it! In a little over two months, we have taken huge steps toward letting go of harsh self-judgments and self-criticism and creating an attitude of self-love and self-compassion.
- Step 1: Acknowledging that we want to change.
- Step 2: Becoming deeply aware of our tendency to put ourselves down.
- Step 3: Catching ourselves in the act and telling ourselves to stop.
- Step 4: Becoming our own self-parent with gentle reminders to be kind to ourselves.
- Step 5: Learning where self-critical messages came from in the first place so that we can begin to challenging the validity of negative thoughts.
- Step 6: Viewing ourselves as child in need of love and compassion.
- Step 7: Replacing our negative judgments with loving thoughts.
So what could possibly come after trading those negative judgments for loving thoughts? Isn’t that the goal? Aren’t we done?
Not quite. Becoming and remaining a self-compassionate person is a constant process. Which brings us to the eighth and final step:
Commit to steps one through seven every day. Remember that you are reprogramming your brain to think differently about you. This means that you must practice regularly. As long as you continue to put down your worth, you have not practiced enough. These things take time and hard work, but let me tell you: You are so worth it!
To review Steps 1-7, see below: