Written by Kristin Barton Cuthriell, M.Ed, MSW, LCSW
I can’t believe that she said that to me. Do you know what he did, after all that I have done for him? She never has a nice thing to say to me.
The only person that you have control to change is you. You can’t change another person unless he or she wants to change. When someone acts cruel or unkind, you can allow it to ruin your day, your week, or even your year, or you can rise above, refusing to give the offender that much power. It is your choice.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said that no one can make you feel inferior without your permission. Someone can throw insults at you all day long, but you decide whether you want to catch them and make them your own. Will you let them stick? If the insult were a ticket, would you take it? Most judgements and insults are more about the person delivering them than they are about the one on the receiving end. You decide if you want to accept an insult. It is up to you.
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God;
It was never between you and them anyway.
The original version of this poem was written by Dr. Kent Keith. It has since been attributed to Mother Teresa.
Be the best that you can be regardless of the actions of others.
Do not allow another to negatively impact your journey.