Healthy relationships are like two hula hoops partially overlapping without one totally covering the other. They overlap and share a common area while maintaining their separate identity. Like a venn diagram, the middle is the WE. The WE is strong, but the YOU to the left and the ME to the right still exists.
If our hula hoops don’t intersect at all, there is too much distance. If one hula hoop totally covers the other, individuality disappears, and enmeshment and co-dependency remain.
Inspect your relationship. Does it have balance? Does it have an I, a YOU, and a WE?