Do you respect yourself? Do your know your worth? How well do you treat yourself? By suggesting that you treat yourself with kindness, I am not suggesting that you become selfish. I am not telling you to put your needs in front of the needs of others. And I am certainly not advising you to act in an arrogant way, dismissing others as not as important as you. Quite the contrary.
I am suggesting that you become aware of how you treat yourself. Not only for your benefit, but for the benefit of others in your life. When you are unkind to yourself, those who love you will also suffer.
Below you will find questions that will increase your awareness as you inventory how well you treat you. Ask yourself…
- Do I treat myself well physically, mentally, spiritually, and socially?
- Do I eat healthy foods?
- Do I get enough rest?
- Am I exercising?
- Can I accept my physical appearance?
- Do I have the courage to leave an abusive relationship?
- Do I spend time with people who are loving and compassionate?
- Can I stop myself from becoming verbally or physically abusive to others?
- Can I view mistakes as opportunities to grow?
- Do I know that I am likable?
- Do I get regular check ups at the dentist and the doctor’s office?
- Do I believe that I am lovable?
- Do I appreciate my abilities?
- Do I consider my own spiritual needs?
- Do I know that it is okay to be wrong?
- Can I accept my limitations?
- Do I hang around emotionally healthy people?
- Do I enjoy my own company?
- Do I accept the possibility that I may be a kind and loving person?
- Do I allow myself to have flaws and still know that I am worthy and lovable?
- Do I take time to have fun?
- Can I name qualities that I like about myself?
- Am I capable of having loving relationships with others?
If you answered no to several of these questions, I want you to know that you are not being kind enough to yourself. Your self-worth begins with you. You CAN change the way in which you perceive yourself. You really do create your own reality. Others will better respect you, when you respect yourself. Other people don’t define your value as a person. You do have worth! Your only problem may be that you don’t recognize it.
It is time to wake up and experience the excellence in you that has been there all along!
If deep feelings of shame get in your way and cause you to self-sabotage, you may really benefit from professional counseling to gain a new perspective. Maybe you have beaten yourself up long enough.
- CULTIVATE: Compassion and Curiosity (maitripsychology.com)
- How Do I Love Myself? (borntoinspire.com)
- How Self-Compassion Will Help You Eat Better (and Some Other Stuff) (eatingmindful.com)