I used to spend so much time responding and reacting to others, trying to figure out who they wanted me to be. My focus was on how I could be pleasing to them, never stopping to consider whether they were pleasing to me. As long as they liked me, I was okay- or so I thought.
And then I had an “Ah Ha” moment. I realized that if I change myself to please them, I am deceiving both of us. They will be with a person that I am not, and I will be with a person who really wants the made up version of me.
When I figured this out, I began to be much more true to myself and to others. This, I found to be very freeing. It was then that I attracted people who accepted me for who I really am. There was no deception. I also realized that a fear of rejection was at the root of the problem. I then asked myself, “If I am rejected for being me, is that a relationship that I really want to continue to pursue?”
I decided that the most important thing is for me to be the best version of myself that I can be, and if someone rejects that (and they will- we ALL experience rejection from time to time), that is okay because it just wasn’t meant to be.
- Ah Ha – Awakening! (janebooth.wordpress.com)