“How do you eat the elephant? One bite at a time.”
Not long ago, I was working with a group of adolescents in an acute inpatient psychiatric hospital. Most of the kids, regardless of their problems, had goals for the future, but had no idea how to pursue them. They did not know where to start. To some of these kids, a very realistic goal such as earning a bachelor’s degree seemed as far-fetched as winning the mega millions in the lottery. Many had come from extremely abusive homes and were now living in their fifth, sixth, or seventh foster home.
Kesha, a thirteen year old girl, who had been removed from her home at the age of nine due to physical, sexual, and emotional abuse, was now living in her third foster home. This young girl did not know what stability felt like, but she did have goals. She loved animals and wanted to someday be a veterinarian. During group one day at the hospital, I asked her what she needed to do in order to become a veterinarian. “Go to vet school,” she replied. I then asked her what she needed to do to go to vet school. “Go to college,” she answered. “What do you need to do to go to college?” I continued. “Graduate from high school,” she answered without hesitation. And finally, “What do you need to do to graduate from high school?” I questioned. “I need to go to school and do my homework,” Kesha replied. “Then all you need to do right now is to go to school and do your homework,” I remarked.
By doing this, I was helping Kesha break her dream down into small manageable parts-baby steps. If Kesha wanted to be a veterinarian, she did not need to worry about anything right now other than going to school and completing her homework. This would create positive momentum in her life. This would get her snowballing in a positive direction. She was taking the first step toward her future career right now.
What are your long term goals? Will you let their magnitude overwhelm you or will you start on the road to achieving them by simply taking that first step, however small? Focus only on what you can do today and in this moment.
I believe that you are capable of building positive momentum in your life by taking it one step at a time; do you?
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