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Letting Go of Harsh Self-Judgments: The Eight Steps to Change. Step 7.

August 19, 2013 Kristin 4 Comments

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With greater awareness of how we treat ourselves comes greater responsibility to treat ourselves well. This means eliminating harsh self-judgments! Over the past several weeks, we’ve discussed six steps to trading a self-critical attitude for a self-compassionate attitude:

  1. acknowledging that we want to change.
  2. becoming aware that we put ourselves down.
  3. catching ourselves each time we are self-critical.
  4. becoming our own nurturing self-parent.
  5. learning where the self-critical messages originated so that we can challenge them.
  6. picturing ourselves as children.

While Steps 1-6 require the hard work of emotional self-exploration, Step 7 asks you to put that work to use by replacing negative judgments with loving thoughts. This step is really about “reprogramming” your brain. What do I mean by that?

It took time and repetition for those self-critical thoughts to take root in your head and heart, so it follows that with time and repetition, loving thoughts will take root as well. Try telling yourself, “I am a worthwhile person that can do anything I set my mind to do.” Say it to yourself over and over again and pretty soon, you will begin to believe it.

Make a list of your positive qualities and review it regularly. You really are reprogramming your brain to think kind and compassionate thoughts about you.

Take a look back at Steps 1-6, and be sure to check back next week for the eighth and final Step!:

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Comments

  1. brianwilliamsen says

    August 19, 2013 at 5:21 pm

    Oy, I fail at this one often. Hey wait, I just did it right there too 🙂 Good stuff, thanks for the reminder. We are all beautifully made.

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    • Kristin Barton Cuthriell says

      August 19, 2013 at 9:28 pm

      Brian, you made me smile here. Yes, we are!

      Reply
  2. tiny lessons blog says

    August 20, 2013 at 11:37 am

    Great reminder! Even when we reprogram, we fail at times. I guess its human. BTW – your steps, when complete, will make a great art for the wall.

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    • Kristin Barton Cuthriell says

      August 20, 2013 at 3:21 pm

      Thank you! Art with great little reminders for the wall. Yes, we all do slip up from time to time; it is human. Hopefully our failure leads to progress.

      Reply

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