We all see the world very differently, and the following post is written from my own personal spiritual perspective. If it helps you in some way- great! If not, leave it behind. I would still love to have you tune in another day!
I believe that no matter how spun up and upset we get, God stays calm in the middle of our storm. When we are feeling out of control, God does not enter into the emotional hurricane with us. God wants to comfort us and lend us His calm.
When crisis hits our lives, we may feel angry with God. I think God can take it. I don’t think that God gets mad at us because we are angry at Him. I do not think that God gets defensive and threatened by our anger. I do think that he wants to show us a new way, a calmer way, a bigger picture.
God doesn’t stoop to our level and engage in tit for tat. Instead, He remains a calming and loving presence in the midst of our fear, our rage, and our emotional storm.
Believing this, helps me to be a more effective mother. Sure I mess it up from time to time, just ask my kids. But I really try to stay calm when they are feeling upset and maybe even a little out of control. I try not to enter an emotional hurricane and try to lend them my calm. When they are mad at me, I can take it. I remind myself that they need me to listen to them and be calm. I know that the last thing they need is for me to become threatened and defensive and engage in a game of tit for tat.
Sure there are consequences for unacceptable behaviors, but consequences are best given when they are well thought out, and I am calm.
Like I said earlier, I don’t always get this right. After all, I am human and I am going to make loads of mistakes ( I do!). But reminding myself to rise above the emotional hurricane of another, usually has a calming effect on the person who needs it the most.
Remember: When someone tries to pull you into their storm, you can refuse the invitation. You can stay calm and wait until their storm passes before engaging in conversation.