How do you view letting go?
Author Louis L’Amour said, “A man can lose sight of everything else when he’s bent on revenge, and it ain’t worth it.”
Many times people think that letting go is the same thing as approving of the offense. For this reason, people often have an extremely difficult time with the letting-go process. But if we can create a shift in how we perceive letting go, we may be able to embrace it and move on with our lives.
Take a look at the following old beliefs that keep us stuck in a pile of resentment, and the new beliefs that set us free. It is in this paradigm change that letting go takes place.
Old belief: Letting go is about letting the offender off the hook.
New belief: Letting go is not about them; it is for me. I am letting myself off the hook.
Old belief: If I let it go, then I am saying that the offense was acceptable.
New belief: I can let go and still know that it was an unacceptable offense.
Old belief: If I let it go, I am saying that the offense should be tolerated.
New belief: Letting go is for my health; it does not mean that I have tolerated anything.
Old belief: Letting go will make me weak.
New belief: It takes strength to let go and not allow another to take over my mind and take my power away.
Old belief: I have to be friends with my offender.
New belief: The offender does not have to be part of my life if that is what I choose.
Old belief I can only let it go if my offender apologizes.
New belief: I can spend the rest of my life waiting for an apology, and it may never happen. Letting go is for me, so that I can move on with my life, with or without an apology.
Old belief: If I let go, my offender wins and I lose.
New belief: If I do not let it go and move on with my life, I lose. The true winner is the one who lets go and finds peace in life.
Old belief They have ruined my life.
New belief: I will not allow another to destroy my life. It is my decision.
Once you shift your perception, letting go will be easier to embrace. And once you begin to let go, you will begin to gain positive momentum in your life, even during the most challenging times. Letting go leads to true freedom.
This post is an excerpt from The Snowball Effect: How to Build Positive Momentum in Your Life.
In order to build positive momentum in your life, you must let go of resentment, bitterness, and blame. My book, The Snowball Effect: How to Build Positive Momentum in Your Life, will not only give you the tools and techniques to let go, but it will provide you will touching stories about people who have rebuilt their lives after encountering devastating setbacks.