Imagine your body filling with poison, seeping into your veins, and running through your bloodstream. Wouldn’t you want to rid your body of the toxins that are tearing you down? Resentment is a poison that keeps you captive and letting go sets you free.
The following is taken from the book, The Snowball Effect: How to Build Positive Momentum in Your Life.
Take a look at the following old beliefs that keep us stuck in a pile of resentment, and the new beliefs that set us free. It is in this paradigm change that letting go takes place.
Old belief: Letting go is about letting the offender off the hook.
New belief: Letting go is not about them; it is for me. I am letting myself off the hook.
Old belief: If I let it go, then I am saying that the offense was acceptable.
New belief: I can let go and still know that it was an unacceptable offense.
Old belief: If I let it go, I am saying that the offense should be tolerated.
New belief: Letting go is for my health; it does not mean that I have tolerated anything.
Old belief: Letting go will make me weak.
New belief: It takes strength to let go and not allow another to take over my mind and take my power away.
Old belief: I have to be friends with my offender.
New belief: The offender does not have to be part of my life if that is what I choose.
Old belief I can only let it go if my offender apologizes.
New belief: I can spend the rest of my life waiting for an apology, and it may never happen. Letting go is for me, so that I can move on with my life, with or without an apology.
Old belief: If I let go, my offender wins and I lose.
New belief: If I do not let it go and move on with my life, I lose. The true winner is the one who lets go and finds peace in life.
Old belief They have ruined my life.
New belief: I will not allow another to destroy my life. It is my decision.
Once you shift your perception, letting go will be easier to embrace. And once you begin to let go, you will begin to gain positive momentum in your life, even during the most challenging times. Letting go leads to true freedom.
The Presents of Presence says
This one’s a keeper ~ I’ve forwarded it to a few friends. Thank you for sharing!
I took it from my new book. Thank you for sharing it! Kristin
Anneli Purchase says
Trying again to leave a comment. I always enjoy your posts, Kristin.
Anneli Purchase says
Wow! It worked for the first time in ages. Maybe we’re back to normal.
I think we are back to normal. Welcome back! 🙂
Henry Eghosa says
What an excellent post. How and where is the book available for purchase?
Thank you, Henry. If you like this post, you will like the book! The Snowball Effect: How to Build Positive Momentum in Your Life is available on Amazon and online at Barnes and Noble. It is in both softcover and e-book (nook and kindle). You can get the book’s link and learn more here https://thesnowballeffect.com/the-snowball-effect-book/ 🙂
Lisa Copenhaver says
This could not have been said better!
Barbara @ Just Another Manic Mommy says
This is a timely post as I have been struggling with something all weekend. I have already read it a few times and imagine I will need to read it a few more times today….thank you 🙂
Resentment is a judgment metastasized into resentment. We have spent time with a judgment, invested emotion, energy and finally we resent.
The ego is guiding our destiny, where we place our attention.
Dissociation also, we dissociate to entertain all these resentment
For past memories or deeds.
I love when you share your insight with us, Marty. Many people can learn from you and your mindfulness practice! Don’t try to hold on to it, push it away, or judge it. Just notice it, observe it, describe it.