They are not threatened by their mistakes. Because they do not judge themselves harshly, they are able to admit their mistakes. Because they are able to admit their mistakes, they are able to learn from them and own them. Because they own them they are less likely to blame others for them. They are also less likely to deny or rationalize their unacceptable behaviors.
These people don’t make excuses. They are not threatened by their errors and know that their mistakes do not decrease their worth. This personal accountability creates positive momentum and spills over into relationships.
People who judge themselves harshly often engage in all or none thinking. They view people, including themselves, as all good or all bad. In their mind, making a mistake makes them all bad. And because of this, it makes it very difficult for them to admit their mistakes, even to themselves.
Self-compassionate people are able to see themselves more realistically. When they mess up, they still see themselves as a good person. They know that the mistake doesn’t define their worth.
To help with self-compassion remember this:
If you learn from your mistakes, there are no failures. There are only successes and opportunities to learn. View each setback as a step closer to success. Focus not on being a failure, but on what was learned so that you can continue to move forward in a positive direction.
One more thing to remember:
No one is perfect. If you beat yourself up over being imperfect, you will never be happy. Strive for excellence, but focus on progress rather than perfection.