Written by Kristin Barton Cuthriell, M.Ed, MSW, LCSW
When you compare yourself to others it is not a true comparison. You are comparing what you know about yourself on the inside; your fears, your insecurities, your past mistakes, and your short-comings, to your perception of the other person. To use an old cliché, you are not comparing apples to apples.
Unless you have walked in the footsteps of another and have actually experienced their experiences, you are comparing yourself to a fantasy of what you perceive the other to be.
Another problem with comparing yourself to other people is that you may compare your limitations or areas of needed growth to their strengths, losing sight of the fact that you have strengths in areas where they may be more limited.
The bottom line is to recognize and maximize your own strengths, accept or strengthen your limitations, and appreciate your uniqueness. Be the best that you can be and stop worrying about what the other person is doing. Treat others with kindness and be cognizant that your perception of others is just that, your perception.