Written by Kristin Barton Cuthriell, M.Ed, MSW, LCSW
Just as the salmon swims upstream, our young girls battle a current. The current of their peers and the current of the media. How can we instill a sense of self-worth in our girls that is more than skin deep; self-worth that is based on true character rather than mere sex appeal? In this day and age, it is more important than ever for our adolescents to know that true beauty comes from within without having to slip on the skin-tight dress that is more appropriate for someone five years their senior.
For those of you who read my blog, you have probably noticed that the majority of my articles have been original. Believe me, there are thousands of wonderful blog posts out there ripe for the reblogging; but I usually prefer to write my own.
Once in a while, I do find something that I just can’t resist. This week I was reading Dr. Wayne Jacob’s blog titled Parenting Tips. Dr. Jacobs has been working in the higher education field for over twenty years and is currently the Dean of the School of Education at LeTourneau University. His post, Getting our Daughters to Dress Modestly, caught my eye.
It caught my eye for several reasons. One reason being, I have a daughter. Another reason being, I counsel many adolescent girls who are looking for love in all the wrong places. Because these girls want to be loved so desperately, they mistakenly think that if they are provocative enough, they will draw in young men who will provide them with the love that they long for. Unfortunately, they do draw in the young men, only to be further injured.
Dr. Jacobs writes, “This issue is more critical than ever in today’s society where adolescents are encouraged by the media and their peers to act and dress years older than they actually are.” He goes on to say, “Everywhere you look, young girls- whether in real life, on television, or in advertisements are dressed in ways that emphasize their sexuality and degrade who they are as people.”
In his article, Dr. Jacobs offers several guidelines to the parents of young girls.
- Set standards early
- Make sure she understands the importance of modesty
- Boost your daughter’s self-esteem
- Replace negative influences with positive influences
- Go shopping with her
He ends his post saying, “And of course, we need to emphasize over and over to them how beautiful they are without having to dress scantily.”
Dr. Jacobs concluded his post with Johnny Diaz’s video, More Beautiful You.
Please take two minutes to watch the More Beautiful You video. It is worth it! You can find the link below. Thank you, Dr. Jacobs for allowing me to share your message.
More Beautiful You: www.youtube.com/watch?v=XNqQUojBg84
Dr. Wayne Jacob’s post: http://waynejacobs.wordpress.com/2012/05/30/