Learning to love ourselves enables us to better love others. Without self-love we go around projecting all of our own self-contempt (harsh judgments, criticisms…) onto everyone else. If we love ourselves, we spread love. If we are full of self-contempt, we spread criticism, negativity, and judgments. True self-love is rooted in security. Narcissistic love is rooted in deep feelings of inadequacy. Individuals who are filled with true self-love are able to spread genuine love to others.
Belittling others tells the world just how inadequate and powerless you feel. It says nothing about the person that you belittle.