My clients come to me for help. But I often learn so much from my clients. This week was no exception. I had a gentleman come see me. He was getting up there in years and wanted to talk to someone about the way that he had been feeling for quite some time now.
As he began to talk, he spoke of regrets. He discussed the early years of his marriage, his long long days at the office, and his children who had grown up in a blink of an eye. He spoke about the years he spent angry- angry about things that he could not have changed. He discussed the precious time that just slipped by while he was busy worrying about tomorrow. “So much time wasted,” he said with tears in his eyes.
As I listened to him, I couldn’t help but get tears in mine. Where had the time gone and why did I not appreciate the moment- was his message.
If you read my blog, you can probably guess where I would steer this gentleman after taking some time to share his pain. I would help him to reflect on the times that he did stop and appreciate. I would help him to see the good in his life. And I would help him wake up to right now. After all, his life is not over.
But I did take something from that session- something very powerful. Here is what I learned. Maybe it can be a reminder to us all.
Don’t wait. Set things right. You will not be on this earth forever. Forgive yourself and forgive others. Don’t allow your pain, anger, and sorrow to ruin your tomorrow. Enjoy today. Don’t waste time bound in a ball of resentment. Take all of that energy that has been bound up in resentment and bitterness and free it up so that you can do new, wonderful, and exciting things. Free it up so that you can grow and move forward with your life. When you are full of bitterness there is no place left for love to dwell. Freedom comes with letting go. When you spend the moment regretting the past or worrying about the future, you miss today. Don’t wait. Find something to appreciate about today.