What Can You Change?
When my brother was two he learned how to ride a little trike bike. He would zoom all over the house with his eyes focused on the pedals rather than on where he was going. One day he was so focused on making those pedals go around and around that he ran right into a wall.
When the wall didn’t move he grew angry, backed his bike up, and rammed it into the wall again. His inpatient stubborn two-year-old mind was thinking, “I want to go this way, and this wall just won’t get out of my way!” And the more he thought this, the more frustrated and mad at the wall he became.
He soon realized that the wall was never going to move, and he needed to change direction and find another way to where he was going. Can you relate? You probably don’t expect walls to get out of your way, but have you wasted precious energy and time trying to change something outside of yourself that just didn’t want to change? Have you been running into walls expecting them to move?
We can motivate, educate, and try to convince others to change, but at the end of the day, the change is up to them and them alone. So go ahead and make this world a better place, but focus your energy on the things that you can change rather than using it all up on things that are beyond your control.
Focus on being the best that you can be, regardless of the people around you. Never sacrifice your values because of the actions of others. Stay true to yourself, live with integrity, and you will find peace. Remember that you may never change them, but you can make changes within yourself.
Stop getting frustrated with walls that just aren’t going to move, and go find a new path that leads you to the great opportunities on the other side of that wall.
- The Art of Meaningful Living – 7: Understanding the “control problem” (thetaoofwealth.wordpress.com)