If we want to build positive momentum in our lives we need to practice intentional thinking. To practice intentional thinking, we need to be aware of what we are thinking and be willing to challenge our own thoughts. In order to challenge our thinking, we need to practice separating our thoughts from our emotions. Let me give you some examples.
We feel unworthy so we think we are unworthy. Let’s challenge that thought.
We feel unworthy, but with intentional thinking we know that our feeling does not make us unworthy. It is just a feeling. A feeling that goes back to our childhood. A feeling that was rooted in the insecurity of another person and had nothing to do with us in the first place.
We feel like a loser so we think we are a loser. Let’s challenge that thought.
We feel like a loser, but know that this is just a feeling rather than a reality. With intentional thinking our thought changes from I think I am a loser to I may feel like a loser but know I am not. Our intentional thinking helps us realize that the feeling is connected to our old baggage and just isn’t true.
We feel like others are judging us so we think they are. Let’s challenge that thought.
We feel like others are judging us, but recognize that this is just a feeling. It doesn’t mean it is true. With intentional thinking we realize that our fear may be a projection. Maybe we have placed such a harsh judgment on ourselves that we assume others are judging us harshly. With this knowledge and intentional thinking, the feeling (the fear) decreases.
We feel like we aren’t good enough so we think we aren’t good enough. Let’s challenge that thought.
We feel like we aren’t good enough, but know that this feeling isn’t accurate. We wish we didn’t feel this way so we tell ourselves that we are good enough and have the courage to move forward.
You see, with intentional thinking we challenge the notion of I feel it so it is. We begin to challenge the thought that is connected to the emotion and in time the emotion decreases. I feel unworthy, but know I am worthy eventually turns into I feel worthy and know I am worthy. And this is a great place to be!
Let’s look at some other feelings that may not be accurate.
I feel unattractive.
I feel stupid.
I feel like I always mess things up.
I feel like the world would be better off without me.
I feel like a bad person.
I feel like nothing ever works out for me.
I feel like others have it so much better than me.
I feel like I will be rejected.
I feel like I can’t.
I feel like everyone should like me or I am flawed.
I feel like I shouldn’t say no.
I feel like things never work out.
Can you relate to any of these? Are you willing to challenge these and PRACTICE intentional thinking? Let me know how it goes. Remember… You Are Worth It!