As I have said before, I often remind myself of healthy practices as I write. Today is no different, as I embark on a journey to remember and practice what I already know. Yes, I am guilty of not always practicing what I preach, but I am progressing and that is the important part.
It is true that my grammar did not improve until I became a sixth grade English teacher. It appears that teaching others can sometimes be the best form of education. Together we can learn.
“Children will remember the simplest of things; things that you and I will forget.”
9 Ways to Tell Your Children That You Love Them
- Be present: When you are spending time with your children put your cell phone down, close your book (unless you are reading to them), turn off the T.V. (unless you are watching a movie together), and turn off the computer. Don’t fool yourself, your child knows when you are truly present with them or mentally engaged elsewhere. Balance your time. When you have set aside time to be with your children, really be with them.
- Tell them that you love them: You may think that your children automatically know this, but they still need to hear it.
- Allow them to express their feelings in appropriate ways: Children need to be validated. Let them know that it is okay to be angry with you, but it is not okay to be disrespectful to you or others. In other words, the emotion is okay, the reaction may need to be adjusted.
- Praise them: When children are praised for doing the right thing, they are more likely to repeat it. Praise is a form of positive reinforcement and builds self-esteem.
- Play with them: Your children may never remember how much housework you did in one day, but they will always remember when you put down whatever it was that you were doing to play with them.
- Provide structure: This makes children feel safe. They know what to expect.
- Set consistent limits: No one wants to be around an unruly child. This is not fair to the child, if the child has never been taught how to behave.
- Give them age appropriate responsibility: This not only increases self-esteem, but it prepares them for adulthood.
- Appreciate their individuality: One of the best ways to tell children that you love them is to appreciate them for who they are; different from yourself.
How do you tell your children that you love them?