Too many people confuse self-compassion with self-absorption, however, they are two very different things. Believe it or not, the person who lacks self-compassion is more likely to be self-absorbed. You see, if you are kind to yourself, you don’t go around projecting all of your hostility onto everyone else.
When you are full of self-compassion, you allow yourself to make mistakes without being so quick to blame everyone else. Being wrong is not so threatening. You chose to learn from your mistakes rather than beat yourself up over them.
When you are full of self-compassion, you are not so quick to judge others. You are okay with not being perfect so you do not unconsciously hide behind your own self contempt by harshly judging others. You don’t need to put others down to boost yourself up, you are already okay with yourself. You know you are a work in progress.
When you are self-compassionate, you treat others with compassion because you know that they go through struggles just like you. Their struggles may be different from yours, but you know that no human life is struggle free.
When you are full of self-compassion, you take care of yourself. You know that your body is the only place here on Earth where you can live. You feed it healthy foods and exercise it regularly. And as a result, you feel better mentally, physically, and emotionally.
When you are self-compassionate, you nurture your spirituality. You lean on a higher power for help. You don’t try to tackle everything yourself.
When you are full of self-compassion, see the world much differently than people who tear themselves down. People who tear themselves down are more likely to focus on the negative things in life, whereas self-compassionate people see the good in most situations.
People who tear themselves down don’t have a whole lot left to give to others. When you are filled with self-compassion, you have a lot of compassion to share with others.
When you are filled with self-compassion, you do not view yourself as a chronic victim. You do not turn to addictions to numb your pain and heal your shame. You are able to forgive yourself and others. You are full of grace. You strive for excellence without demanding perfection in all that you do. You try to live your best life and get back up when you get knocked down. You focus on your own growth rather than complain about the lack of growth in others. You are able to learn, you are able to love, and you are able to grow.
They next time you catch yourself putting yourself down, practice compassion. When you decide to be kind to you, amazing things will happen.