Do you feel bitter? Are you full of resentment? If so, you are holding yourself back from being who you were designed to be. You are wasting precious energy on those who have hurt you which steals energy away from those who are loving you. I often tell clients that the only thing worse than someone else hurting you in the past is you continuing to hurt yourself in the present and in the future.
If you are tired of holding on to resentment and recognize the toxic effect it has on you, changing some of your beliefs about letting go can help. Take a look at these 8 new beliefs that will help you let go of resentment so that you can begin to enjoy life again.
Old belief: Letting go is about letting the offender off the hook.
New belief: Letting go is not about them; it is for me. I am letting myself off the hook.
Old belief: If I let it go, then I am saying that the offense was acceptable.
New belief: I can let go and still know that it was an unacceptable offense.
Old belief: If I let it go, I am saying that the offense should be tolerated.
New belief: Letting go is for my health; it does not mean that I have tolerated anything.
Old belief: Letting go will make me weak.
New belief: It takes strength to let go and not allow another to take over my mind and take my power away.
Old belief: I have to be friends with my offender.
New belief: The offender does not have to be part of my life if that is what I choose.
Old belief I can only let it go if my offender apologizes.
New belief: I can spend the rest of my life waiting for an apology, and it may never happen. Letting go is for me, so that I can move on with my life, with or without an apology.
Old belief: If I let go, my offender wins and I lose.
New belief: If I do not let it go and move on with my life, I lose. The true winner is the one who lets go and finds peace in life.
Old belief They have ruined my life.
New belief: I will not allow another to destroy my life. It is my decision.
Once you shift your perception, letting go will be easier to embrace. And once you begin to let go, you will begin to gain positive momentum in your life, even during the most challenging times. Letting go leads to true freedom. Isn’t it time to give yourself that freedom?
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