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Are You Doing Everything You Can to Improve Your Mood?

December 18, 2012 Kristin 21 Comments

Action Opposite to Emotion

bikeHave you ever forced yourself to do something that you really didn’t want to do, only because it was good for you?  Even though you did not want to do it, did you feel better afterwards?  Did you feel a sense of accomplishment?  Were you glad you did it?  Most people will tell you that when they force themselves to do what is in their best interest, no matter how much they do not want to do it, they feel better.

So often we want to take the path of least resistance when we know there is a healthier route.  We often do this because our emotions lead the way.  We do what we FEEL like doing.  The problem is- what we FEEL like doing often makes us FEEL worse.

We FEEL unmotivated so we skip the workout.  We FEEL depressed so we isolate ourselves from others.  We FEEL overwhelmed so we totally shut down.  We FEEL discouraged so we fill our head with self-defeating thoughts…And where do we find ourselves?  Feeling more unmotivated, depressed, overwhelmed, and discouraged.

IF WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS NOT WORKING FOR YOU, DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT.

Sometimes we need to take action opposite to emotion (the opposite of what we feel like doing) to produce a desired emotion.

joggingWhen feeling depressed, one of the last things you may feel like doing is exercising or getting together with other people.  However, exercise and social support elevates the mood and reduces depression.

When feeling overwhelmed, you may want to just shut down.  However, this will only make you feel worse.  By doing SOMETHING, no matter how small, you get some momentum going.  When you are overwhelmed, take baby steps.

When feeling anxious, you may just want to avoid.  However, avoidance only leads to more anxiety.  By confronting your fears, you reduce your anxiety.  (You may want to partner with a professional, depending on the intensity of your fears)

When feeling shameful, you want to hide.  (You may want to hide under a table, run away, or hide behind your addictions)  However, hiding produces more shame.  Opening up to trusted others can reduce shameful feelings.

Take a look at the chart below.

Emotion                       Desired Action            Action Opposite to Emotion          New Emotion

unmotivated                 do nothing                 work out                                             motivated

anxiety                           avoidance                   confront                                              less anxiety

anger                              scream, hit                calmly assert self                              peace

sadness                          isolate self                   find supportive others                    loved/supported

shame                             hide                              talk to trusted others                       less shame

sluggish                         do nothing                   take a brisk walk                              more energized

How do you cope with uncomfortable emotions?  Is it working for you?  Is it healthy?  Have you ever tried doing action opposite to emotion?

*If you have been feeling extremely down or depressed for over three days or have thoughts of harming yourself or others, please seek medical attention immediately.

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Comments

  1. Jennifer Bichara says

    December 18, 2012 at 4:25 pm

    Yes, right now am blogging – that helps my mood. 😉

    Reply
    • Jennifer Bichara says

      December 18, 2012 at 4:26 pm

      Yup experience that many many times in my life time…exercise does helps a lot

      Reply
      • Kristin Barton Cuthriell says

        December 18, 2012 at 10:55 pm

        I know exercise helps me.

        Reply
    • Kristin Barton Cuthriell says

      December 18, 2012 at 10:55 pm

      🙂 If it works and it is not unhealthy, keep doing it.

      Reply
      • Jennifer Bichara says

        December 29, 2012 at 4:03 pm

        Thank you Kristin! Will definitely not stop..
        Happy New Year to you and your family!
        Best, Jenny

        Reply
        • Kristin Barton Cuthriell says

          December 31, 2012 at 2:19 pm

          Happy New Year, Jenny. Here is to health and happiness to you and your family.

          Reply
      • Jennifer Bichara says

        December 31, 2012 at 2:26 pm

        Same to you 😉

        Reply
  2. Marty says

    December 18, 2012 at 5:22 pm

    Sedentary means we are losing life, giving up on us, move, take action and let thought be.

    Life will change as it always does. Not even the good times, great times, last.

    Reply
    • Kristin Barton Cuthriell says

      December 18, 2012 at 10:57 pm

      This, too, shall pass. Action is key!

      Reply
  3. David Kanigan says

    December 18, 2012 at 8:28 pm

    Packing another powerful punch with this post Kristin.

    Reply
    • Kristin Barton Cuthriell says

      December 18, 2012 at 11:00 pm

      We need a punch once in awhile. Have a great evening, David.

      Reply
  4. purple pineapple says

    December 19, 2012 at 1:33 am

    That’s a great list!!! 🙂

    Reply
    • Kristin Barton Cuthriell says

      December 20, 2012 at 1:14 am

      I hope it helps 🙂

      Reply
  5. jmgoyder says

    December 19, 2012 at 2:35 am

    Great advice!

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    • Kristin Barton Cuthriell says

      December 20, 2012 at 1:14 am

      Thank you!

      Reply
  6. Todd Lohenry says

    December 19, 2012 at 12:04 pm

    Recently I learned [and have been testing it with a great deal of success] that we have two choices when faced with pain; change our focus or change our physiology. When changing the focus doesn’t work, change your physiology; smile, laugh, do something absurd, go for a walk — they all are useful in breaking out of the state in which we’re feeling pain. Another great, thoughtful post and it looks great on your ‘tweaked’ blog…

    Reply
    • Kristin Barton Cuthriell says

      December 20, 2012 at 1:15 am

      Well said!

      Reply
  7. Sloan says

    December 19, 2012 at 7:27 pm

    Another great post, Kristin. Thanks for sharing it.
    And I have something for you
    http://tamingtheinvisibledragon.com/2012/12/19/affirmation-appreciation-awards/
    Many blessings, my friend,
    Sloan

    Reply
    • Kristin Barton Cuthriell says

      December 20, 2012 at 1:16 am

      Sloan- Thank you so much for sharing this post. Also, thank you for the nomination. I am honored!

      Reply
  8. GYA today says

    December 20, 2012 at 1:54 am

    Very timely, Kristin. Thank you. 🙂 ~Paul

    Reply
    • Kristin Barton Cuthriell says

      December 20, 2012 at 9:14 pm

      You are welcome. Thank you for all of your terrific posts, Paul.

      Reply

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