So you’ve acknowledged what you want to change, become deeply aware of your self-critical habits, and started to catch yourself in the act when you beat yourself up. Now it’s time to become your own self-parent and stop yourself from making harsh self-judgments. It may sound a little odd, the idea of parenting yourself, but believe me, this is exactly the attitude you need to take!
Just as you would step in and tell your child to stop if he or she were bullying another child, you tell yourself to stop putting you down. Emotionally healthy caregivers provide children with encouragement, validation, structure, discipline, comfort, acceptance and unconditional love. You may not have gotten these things from your caregivers as a child, but it is now time to be your own healthy parent. Insist that you are kind to you!
If you haven’t already, check out steps 1, 2 and 3 below!