In that small space between the event and your response, remind yourself to "ride the wave of emotion." When an upsetting even occurs, if we can just stop for a moment, identify the emotions that we are feeling, accept them without judging them, and remind ourselves that they … [Read more...]
Letting Go of Harsh Self-Judgments: The Eight Steps to Change. Step 6.
Remember, we usually live up to our view of ourselves. Are you uplifting or overly critical? Over the past five weeks, we've made great strides in the process of releasing harsh self-judgments and adopting an attitude of self-care and self-compassion by... acknowledging that … [Read more...]
Want Superpowers? Smile.
This isn't the first time I've touched upon the incredible happiness smiling can bring, but it's a topic worth revisiting every day! Today I fell upon a TED Talk posted by Louisa Jewell of Positive Matters that I'm excited to share with you. In it, Ron Gutman likens smiling to a … [Read more...]
What Your Child Needs Most From You
What does your child need most from you? What your child needs most from you is for you to not need your child. I first heard this from my friend and colleague, Dr. Paul VanValin, a clinical psychologist. "What?" you may ask. As I originally did. "Of course I need my child. I … [Read more...]
Outbursts of Anger: How to Calm Your Brain
We can actually change our own brain. When our anger is triggered, it can turn into rage very quickly. When we feel rage, we are no longer in wise mind and all logic is gone. This is when we cause ourselves problems. Our amygdala, the emotional part of our brain that assesses … [Read more...]