Whether you are introverted, extroverted, or an extroverted introvert, you are created for connection. Connection is one of our most basic human needs. As infants we need connection with others to survive, and as adults we need the right kind of connection to thrive. When we … [Read more...]
Do You Fear Intimacy?
When we hear the word intimacy many of us think of physical intimacy. But true intimacy involves a lot more than physical touch. It involves vulnerability. It is to know and truly be known by another. Intimacy involves letting your guard down and lowering your defenses. A … [Read more...]
The Difference Between True Intimacy and the Fantasy Bond
Do you know the difference between true intimacy and the fantasy bond? (Some of you may have seen this on my blog about two years ago, but I thought I would post it again for those who may have missed it. So here goes...) Many people confuse the fantasy bond with true intimacy. … [Read more...]
Vulnerability Is Necessary to Achieve True Intimacy
Many couples struggle with a fear of intimacy. They fear getting too close emotionally because they don't want to get hurt. Letting their guard down feels too risky. They don't like feeling vulnerable. Just the other day I was working with a couple whose relationship was built … [Read more...]
True connection, vulnerability, and a fear of rejection
"I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship." -Brene Brown In order to have an authentic connection, both … [Read more...]