Remember, we usually live up to our view of ourselves. Are you uplifting or overly critical? Over the past five weeks, we've made great strides in the process of releasing harsh self-judgments and adopting an attitude of self-care and self-compassion by... acknowledging that … [Read more...]
Letting Go of Harsh Self-Judgments: The Eight Steps to Change. Step 4.
So you've acknowledged what you want to change, become deeply aware of your self-critical habits, and started to catch yourself in the act when you beat yourself up. Now it's time to become your own self-parent and stop yourself from making harsh self-judgments. It may sound a … [Read more...]
What Your Child Needs Most From You
What does your child need most from you? What your child needs most from you is for you to not need your child. I first heard this from my friend and colleague, Dr. Paul VanValin, a clinical psychologist. "What?" you may ask. As I originally did. "Of course I need my child. I … [Read more...]
Children and Self-Esteem
If you tell your children that they are stupid and worthless, they will believe you. If you tell your children that they are capable of wonderful things, they will believe you, too. What do you want your children to believe? Children internalize messages that they hear from … [Read more...]
Family Boundaries
"I can't believe your father did it again!" "This is just between me and you. Don't share this with your mother." "Your mother drives me crazy!" Most parents complain about their partner to their child once in a while, and it often is not a big deal. However, if the complaining … [Read more...]