So you've acknowledged what you want to change, become deeply aware of your self-critical habits, and started to catch yourself in the act when you beat yourself up. Now it's time to become your own self-parent and stop yourself from making harsh self-judgments. It may sound a … [Read more...]
Don’t Allow Another Person To Determine Your Worth
Plant Your Own Garden
Here is a lovely poem by Veronica A. Shoffstall that I found on Barefoot In the Burbs: "After a while you learn the subtle difference Between holding a hand and chaining a soul And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning And company doesn't mean security, And you begin to … [Read more...]
Truly Love Yourself to Truly Love Others
Letting go of harsh judgments and learning to be compassionate towards ourselves enables us to love others. Without self-compassion we go around projecting all of our own self-contempt, harsh judgments, and criticisms onto everyone else. If we love ourselves, we spread love. If … [Read more...]
Self-Compassion and Accountability
Self-compassionate people hold themselves accountable for their actions. They are not threatened by their mistakes. Because they do not judge themselves harshly, they are able to admit their mistakes. Because they are able to admit their mistakes, they are able to learn from … [Read more...]