The more research I read on self-compassion, the more I realize just how important it truly is. Researcher, author, and psychologist, Kristin Neff, has been studying self-compassion for years and has published many evidence based journal articles on the subject. Neff and other … [Read more...]
The Difference Between True Intimacy and the Fantasy Bond
Do you know the difference between true intimacy and the fantasy bond? (Some of you may have seen this on my blog about two years ago, but I thought I would post it again for those who may have missed it. So here goes...) Many people confuse the fantasy bond with true intimacy. … [Read more...]
Are You a Relationship Masochist?
Over the years I have had people come into my office saying they are a relationship masochist. Although I do not use this label and it is not an official clinical diagnosis, people use this term to describe their pattern of getting into one unhealthy relationship after … [Read more...]
12 Tips To Having a Successful Long-Term Relationship
12 Tips Be present: Stop looking at your phone and love the one you are with. When you are in the company of one person while texting another, you send the message that the person you are on the phone with is more important than the person sitting right beside you. Is this the … [Read more...]
Truly Love Yourself to Truly Love Others
Letting go of harsh judgments and learning to be compassionate towards ourselves enables us to love others. Without self-compassion we go around projecting all of our own self-contempt, harsh judgments, and criticisms onto everyone else. If we love ourselves, we spread love. If … [Read more...]