Years ago when I was working at a day treatment program for people in recovery from addictions, I began learning about shame. I found the research eye opening to say the least. The implications were a total game changer..a life changer. You see, the destructive emotion of … [Read more...]
Do You Self-Sabotage?
"Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn't happen." -Alyce Cornyn-Selby We often consciously or unconsciously sabotage ourselves because we do not think that we deserve to be successful in life. We may have made mistakes in the … [Read more...]
Are You Sabotaging Yourself?
We are often our own worst enemy. We often consciously or unconsciously sabotage ourselves because we do not think that we deserve to be successful in life. We may have made mistakes in the past that we have been unable or unwilling to forgive. We may self-sabotage by … [Read more...]
Removing the Shame Associated With Abuse
Removing the Shame Associated With Childhood Abuse: Julia walked into my office and sat down on the couch without saying a word. She did not need to say anything for me to know that she was in pain. Her eyes radiated pain. … [Read more...]
When we judge our feelings as "bad" or we tell ourselves that we "shouldn't" feel a certain way, we are essentially telling ourselves that something is wrong with us. This creates shame, and shame is at the root of self-sabotaging behaviors. Our harsh judgment of our emotions … [Read more...]